Every life is worth honouring and each ceremony to celebrate a person’s life should be meaningful. The primary task when chosen to conduct services as a funeral celebrant is to handcraft a ceremony that rings true to the person being honoured. This starts with a meeting of family (and friends) at a place of your choosing and possibly a phone call or two so that I can gather all the information needed to formulate a ceremony that encompasses the wishes of the deceased and loved ones.
My role is to be responsive to the expectations and intentions for the ceremony and to listen to what you are wanting to achieve collectively as mourners of a loved one. I can offer my experience and training with what things work well in most situations, assistance with the overall structure of the service and also offer a large number of suggestions with regard to personal touches involving tributes, poems, scripture, prose and music. As is the case with most families, on some occasions you can expect a bit of passion with regard to getting the ceremony right.
At the end of the day the ceremony is about the person who died but it is not for them – It is for all of those people who are left behind so that they can begin to adjust to their personal loss. A funeral celebrant is trusted with setting the tone of a difficult occasion involving multiple levels of sadness and grief.
It is common (and more than OK) for a funeral celebrant to write and deliver the eulogy at most funerals.Preparing and delivering a eulogy can make those unaccustomed to writing and public speaking very anxious. Even those people that would normally be capable to deliver such speeches under normal circumstances may struggle to deliver same at a funeral for many reasons associated with grief and mourning. A funeral is a very important occasion and those in attendance are very emotionally fragile.